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Midlife Transitions: Do you know the Little Things Keeping You against Your Goals

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Carl Banks was an All-Pro linebacker who played for that New York Giants and was a part of their first couple of Super Bowl champion teams in 1986 and 1990. Today, Carl is a broadcaster for the Giants, as well as does a twice a week appearance on the local radio station in Nyc that features sports talk radio. This past week Carl was speaking about the Giants and in particular how mistakes the team was making were keeping it from having a better record than it should. He used a great analogy. The mistakes he pointed out started with insufficient attention to the small things. For example, Carl established that he was a stickler for instilling discipline in his children. If they just drop something on the floor and put it anyplace they need rather than where it belongs, and he lets them leave it there, it soon mushrooms right into a second thing on the ground after which a third. Ultimately one day you get to a point high is really a whole group of items all over the floor that make a room look like a mess, and something wonders the way it got this way. As Carl stressed, if he takes the time at first to point when the first item is misplaced to have it put where it belongs, it does not come to be the bigger issue if there is nothing said.

It is the same manner in reaching our goals. It is rare someone reaches an objective quickly or in just one step, particularly if it is a life changing goal. Often there are a series of steps to be taken, some big, however, many which are small yet important, that must be accomplished on the way. If for instance, your goal would be to go on a holiday next summer you may make a vow to yourself to put aside a certain amount of money every week to pay for the trip. However, if you start to not do that by spending the cash you've allocated for that trip on other pursuits, or saying to yourself you have time prior to the cash is required for the vacation, the probability grows while you approach the spring and assess your finances you'll be no where close to getting the money you'll need. When summer comes you may be questioning what went down along the way or feeling very down when others are enjoying a good time and you are not able to do so.

Mid-life Transitions

When one faces a transition point at mid-life, it occurred either from a choice they made voluntarily, or perhaps a set of external circumstances which happened for them to which they now must choose on how they will move forward.To get back to the illustration of the brand new York Giants at the beginning of this article, they're a team that has faced a number of injuries. Those are external circumstances they haven't yet chosen to occur. However, the remaining players are still drilled each week by their coaches on planning the way they will look to defeat their next opponent. A part of that drilling is to execute the plan without making mistakes that make things easier for the other team. When even one of the eleven players on a particular play does something which is against the plan, the chances increase greatly that the play won't be successful which contributes from the team's overall goal of winning the game.

Therefore, if you continually end up questioning why things always seem to fail for you, or why others succeed where you don't, have a take a step back and look at yourself and your life in the mirror. What habits have you got that later inhibit you from moving forward to successful outcomes? How did that insurmountable obstacle you have actually get started, and what happened on the way to bring about it? What steps perhaps you have drawn in yesteryear are the ones that you know going forward that you would not take again given their impact on a desired outcome you expected?

Significant accomplishments happen using the completing small steps. With every small step achieving success one gets closer and closer to what they are looking to obtain. While you start to figure out what you want next out of your life ensure that plan you place together not only has the major steps to accomplishment, however the smaller ones along the way that must happen. Not to do so will have you questioning what went wrong whenever you fall short of your goals.

Posted Aug 09, 2012 at 4:05pm